am it the only person who doesn't like their boyfriend looking at porn?? right now i am fucking LIVID. i ask my boyfriend occasionally, "do you look at porn? i will be a little upset but i would much rather you tell me than lie to me". i've told him multiple times- whatever you do, just don't fucking lie to me. he swears "oh, i never look at porn! why would i look at porn when i have you?" and i knew he was lying, i can just tell. i mean he's a guy for God's sake. and of course i found out that he's... been looking at porn. and now, when he knows he's been caught in a lie, "oh i only do it occasionally when i'm really bored... i don't look at it every night or anything".
honestly, at this point i don't even give a shit about the porn. it's the fact that he has been LYING TO MY FACE for a long time... years. of course i knew deep down that he was lying, but i didn't want to make a big deal out of it and maybe, just a little, i believed him.
now i know i have my faults and i might be being a hypocrite here but i don't really care. i am so angry at this point i want to just break something. i'm so so so angry and hurt and upset and i feel betrayed.
if you think i'm crazy because i don't want my boyfriend looking at porn, then you're probably right. i don't really care though, i can't control how i feel and i can't control whether or not people lie to me but you're damn right i'm going to be beyond LIVID when i catch someone in a lie/swore to God/swore on everything.
Guys: don't lie to a woman. we can find out ANYTHING if we really want to.
Being lied to is the worst feeling ever. Not fun. You're not crazy, though. I'll watch porn with my boyfriend for a laugh, but it's completely different if he looks at it without me. I get how you're feeling.
ReplyDeleteWhy don't you like him looking at porn? Maybe if you explained to him why, instead of just accusing and getting mad, it would help him understand and possibly stop. I personally don't care if my bf looks, but I know if he and I ever have problems, we try to help each other get inside out heads, so we can understand each other better.
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i totally agree with you, i would HATE it if my boyfriend looked at porn. it's not 'normal' like some people say, they just tell themselves that. he's looking at other girls instead of you, thats not okay and i completely think u have a right to be mad. just try to tell him why it bothers you, it might not work but then atleast he knows the real deeper reasons that it bothers u
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